Welcome to Heckheim!

Heckheim means “Hell House” and it’s a term my friend Petra came up with back when her then-roommates decided to oust her on the sly while she and her then-husband were away at Burningman. It’s a cautionary tale on how roommate relationships can go sour almost out of the blue. It’s almost like everyone just pretends everything is fine, and no one every says anything, until it’s too late.

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Caveman Values

Some time ago, I read a piece by Maureen Dowd in the New York Times, titled “What’s a Modern Girl To Do?” describing the courtship and career dilemmas of the post-feminist era. Apparently, the entire nation is backsliding on every front, and women are high-tailing it back to the concentration camp formerly known as “homemaking”. As a feminist and freethinker, I have to wonder why I’m not among them. Ms. Dowd cites studies showing two things. First, women tend to pursue powerful, dominant, high-status men, and will choose a CEO or VP over a rank-and-file worker. Second, men tend to choose submissive, non-intellectual women, secretaries rather than Cabinet ministers. She goes on to provide considerable anecdotal evidence that educated, professional urban 20- somethings have felt pressured to choose between frumpy feminism and a lifetime of following “The Rules”.

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